I recently met with a client I’ll call Annie. Annie is divorced and has been single for ten years. She hasn’t dated for the last five of those ten years. Annie has an upbeat attitude about life but doesn’t feel as positive in dating and relationships as she does in other areas of her life.
She shared with me that her last relationship ended badly when she discovered that her boyfriend was an untreated sex-addict and was not financially responsible. She found herself left with credit card debt that she is still working to pay off and confusion about love and relationships. She choose not to date for the past few years focusing instead on her career and her daughter – which are both thriving.
“Do you want to start dating again?” I asked. “Well., yes if I can do it differently this time.” Annie replied. We talked about what it would take for her to start dating. Annie revealed that she doubts her ability to attract the right man. After all, she said, “I’m getting older, I’ve got emotional baggage and I don’t know if the men I’m attracted to are right for me.” She also shared that she did not want to experience the pain of another rejection.
I reassured her that she is not alone in her concerns and many single women and men struggle with limiting beliefs and the fear of rejection. I helped her remember how she was able to fulfill other visions for her life like raising a wonderful daughter as a single-mom and creating a successful career along the way. She realized that when she broke a goal down and took it one step at a time, having support along the way to guide her, she always reached her goal.
“Could I do the same thing with dating and relationships?” she queried. “Well, looking back at how well you’ve overcome fear in the past do you think you do it can now? I responded. “After all, you’ve dealt with fear before and you’ve conquered it so that you could live your life vision.”
I asked her what it would mean to her to have a happy, healthy and committed relationship and her eyes lit up. She beamed with excitement! It would mean that I could share my life with someone that really loved me and enjoy companionship and new wonderful experiences! I witnessed her attitude transform as she brought to light wonderful new things she could experience with a life-partner. Her energy dial had just been turned up. So far up in fact she realized that all of the positive wonderful experiences a great relationship would bring her would far outweigh her fears. She found the strength to start again.
And you can, too!
Conclusion: If your fear of rejection and/or your limiting beliefs are blocking you’re not alone! I’ve helped lots of clients with the same issues create positive outcomes in love.
I offer complimentary no-obligation 20-minute phone consults or 30 minute in-person consults in the Austin TX area.
Visit http://ignitedivinesparks.com or Call me at 512-922-4822 or Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org so we can talk about one of the ways I can help!