I’ve done it myself. I’ve seen people do it after a week. It feels like the right thing to do, the easiest thing to do, yet it’s actually self-sabotaging and emotionally risky. The “thing” I’m referring to is jumping into a relationship with someone too soon and putting all your eggs in one basket.
Have you ever met someone and after two or three dates you felt like there was a potential for him or her to be “the one” so you stopped responding to anyone else who was interested in you and you started a physical relationship?
If that sounds familiar you’re limiting your chances of having a loving, lasting relationship with the right person. We tend to confer loyalty to someone before we really know them.
It takes time to develop a trust and emotional intimacy. If you give yourself lots of time to get to know someone as a friend first, before committing yourself to be exclusive, you’ll be better likely to:
- Keep your options open. If you’re just friends, you can be friends with several men or women and get to know them over a period of time.
- Build a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect.
- Spot red flags easier. When your mind becomes clouded by the emotions of a sexual relationship, you can easily ignore the things about your partner that oppose your values and that will inevitably appear in the relationship. Not spotting red flags early on can lead to heartbreak later on.
- Have fun with each other outside of the bedroom. Being friends does not involve candlelight dinners or make-out sessions. It’s about doing things like going to movies, museums, art exhibits, and hikes so you can enjoy the companionship of another person.
So, the bottom-line is to take things slowly and see if you want to be friends with someone first – before you begin a romance and an exclusive relationship!
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