One of my clients told me the other day that she can really only be herself around men that aren’t available for a relationship like her best friend’s husband or the married men she meets. She explained that when she doesn’t try to impress a man she can relax without feeling like she needed to censor herself.
Have you felt like you had to edit yourself so that you could attract a date or keep your date’s interest up? Do you tense up around you’re hoping to impress your date?
A few ways I edited myself in the past include:
- Not saying what I really wanted to say.
- Dressing to please someone other than myself.
- Talking myself into doing things that I didn’t want to do.
- Trying to see what he wanted, then becoming that.
In essence, I betrayed myself in order to please who I thought my date wanted me to be. Many times, I didn’t want to do things he wanted to do yet I usually acquiesced and did them anyway only to feel the unease of not being true to myself.
Is this you?
The truth is that if you want to find a joyful, loving, committed relationship with someone that loves you just the way you are don’t stop yourself from being the real you! As you become more comfortable being yourself, you’ll find it easier to do things that you want to do in just the way you want to do them. You won’t have to feel the pull to satisfy another person. You won’t fear judgment.
When you are genuine you’ll become more attractive to the partner that will be your best match!
Conclusion: Committing to being true to yourself and authentic can dramatically increase the quality of your life and your relationships. If you’d like to find out more about cultivating authenticity, I can help! You can reach me at 512-922-4822 or email me: email@example.com.